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All is well.

There's just too many things on my mind right now.

I Believe I Can Ride!

Our minds are powerful. Whatever we think, we create!

I would like to believe that my experiences are simply because of pure luck or coincidences but are they really?

For everything is possible!

So, what if after following "..whatever-your-mind-can-conceive-and-believe, it-will-achieve" mindset and just tried to focus on what we want, STILL the result isn't what we want?

All in my mind!

I've read that whatever you focus your mind into, it will happen. Whatever it is!

So, say you woke up late and domino effect, your mood, your actions got to be affected too!

The more you focus on your fear of being late, more you attract all the mishaps.. phones would ring, your kids would bother you, you would forget your bag or lunch pack, you get stuck in a traffic jam.. as if the universe conspires to make you feel the pain!

What if I took a different path? What if I changed my decisions? What if I didn't choose? What would my life be?

Pretending Works

... so we have a lot of anxieties, fears, concerns, doubts, and worries.... like we seem to always have something to complain about.. or be scared of.

... and though we'd always have a lot of reasons to believe it is worth our time and that we have every right to be one...

still the fact remains that it is a burden, a trap and it will lead us nowhere.

What I learned that works, though, is the power of pretension.

Games in our Minds

Since daddy worked abroad we were blessed with high technology toys and gadgets growing up.

I just remembered because every time I would drive and need to cross roads, my mind would automatically switch to game mode! Lol!

You see, I used to love this Chicken Crossing The Road Game using ATARI then. I would control the chicken's movement so it wouldn't get killed while crossing, the chicken needs to walk past 4 lanes to get a score -mmm, to get the worm at the other side!

So, just to make a connection, it could be that when we are constantly faced with the same challenges everyday, even via online games, we also subconsciously get to actualize it. It no longer matters if it's just a game or the real thing, we react the same to it!

The point is REPETITION, VISUALIZATION and MIND CONDITIONING may actually work especially in achieving our goals or achieving our dreams.

What do you really want? If, say, we really want to become a millionaire... then we may set up situations where in we could become one. Train our minds to act, to see, to talk, to walk, to speak, to hear, to listen, to move like one.. and then maybe it could happen, in time.

If we want to build our own business someday and become a business tycoon, there are online games available which may prepare us to become one!

A good experiment, but see, it is more on training of our minds to THINK OUTSIDE OF THE BOX and right here, right now, experience life like we wanted it.

Scary too, because many people want to play war games.. I mean, what are we training our minds into? - killing? destroying?, it may just be a game but it's like programming our minds to something bigger.

Who knows, it may not just be a game or illusion, but our own reality. (At least in specific areas, in our minds!)

I hope I make sense! Lol!

NAMASTE.

-day 185

They forgot my birthday!

It was September 6, my birthday.

Everyone in my family greeted me. But, since, it was a school day, I had to go to school, I couldn't remember anymore what grade level I was when it happened.

All I remember was our homeroom teacher didn't even acknowledge nor reminded the class about my special day. I was hoping someone would remember. (No Facebook then and computers were still very expensive that time).

So the whole day, I kept my happy face and happy disposition. At the back of my mind, I was hoping against hope, my teachers and classmates would remember to greet me. End of class, NOBODY did.

I felt so downhearted.

But I kept myself accountable and responsible for what happened. I knew I should have done something, but didn't.

I allowed fate to take its toll.

Lesson learned. The following year, my birthday fell on a school day again. I went to school.

Everyone greeted me. As in everyone!

What happened? I TOLD everyone it was my birthday! Starting from the security guard in the school, to all my teachers - classmates and everyone I know!

I got what I wanted. I felt so happy, glad, jubilant! Lol!

God may have wanted me to experience the birthday scenario for me to learn a great lesson in life and living.

It took a year of planning, deciphering and reflection. Nobody greeted me during my birthday not because they hate me nor they didn't like me, they simply didn't know.

I could have chosen to let it be, but I didn't because I was not happy with the results. I wanted people to celebrate with me, so I chose to change the rule, I chose to be proactive. It gave me the results I wanted.

That year, I realized I have a say as to what happens in my life. I can take control of my destiny. I am the leader of my own thoughts. I am the captain of my actions. I create my results.

NAMASTE.

-day 162

I met an Atheist!

"C'mon Maria, there is no God!

I'm an Atheist. I don't go to church. There is no God!"

For the first time, in my entire life, I met an Atheist, in person!

I said, how can you not believe in God? There is life, life is God. Yes, he said, if life is God then I believe it, but not God, who is supreme power and directs our lives...

Just like Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy or God. There is no God. There is no Santa Claus. There is no Tooth Fairy.

He said, I'm not a bad person, I do my best. I give my all. I do what is necessary. I make things happen. But I don't believe in God. I don't have any church. I don't belong to any group.

He is a good person. He does his best, he is a kind man. He makes things happen and helps make the world a better place for him and the people around him.

Does it matter now, to me, what he does not believe in?

Will it matter now, to you, what he does not believe in?

Will I try to force him into making him believe there is one? To just prove my point? To let him know I am right? To make him realize I have all the answers? To judge he is wronged?

I say RESPECT.

I believe in God. He does not.

Period.

NAMASTE.

-day 159

Being "LIKED" in the Workplace.

Older Woman: "Come here, I have to tell you something..."

Me: "What is?"

Older Woman: "You know, he is not liked. Nobody likes him." (referring to one of the bosses)

Me: "Mmmm..."

Older Woman: "Yeah, like 5 people told me that!"

Me: "Mmmm.."

Older Woman: "You don't know right? because nobody tells you, but I am telling you because I like you.. and you need to be wary..."

Is being "liked" in the workplace important?

I am not really into "people should like me" thing. In the workplace, as long as I do my work and do my work well, then that is fine. How I deal with people, though, also matters - nope, it matters a lot!

I know I won't be able to please all, and for sure the one (boss) being mentioned, knows that too!

He is simply doing his work, and he is doing his work well. He may not be liked because he wants things done and some people doesn't like that.

Some doesn't want to be bossed around because they thought they are their own bosses too; some wouldn't want to follow his lead, because they thought they know better. Some are just lazy too, and if they get reprimanded, they would make things personal.

Well, I guess, it doesn't really matter what world you live in, 1st world or 3rd world, people are just the same.

We may ALL need to review our Work Ethics again.

NAMASTE.

-day 154

Silent Mode

Oh my! I am already in my 129th day!

I really can't decide what to write tonight!

So, I'll just make some updates as to what's happening with my life nowadays. No one will read this anyway so, I'm taking my risk! Lol!

I've enlisted myself to play volleyball and badminton in the Pinoy Tournament here in NM. I am also playing soccer with the Gallup Adult Soccer! ... and who would have thought, I'd be playing again.. that's just it anyway, just for fun! just for exercise purposes, and just to be with new found friends here in New Mexico.

I'll be very busy this summer, we have 6 weeks left in the school year; and I can't wait to get things started.

I have to start sleeping earlier, 10:30pm, would be best! Good luck to me!

What else?

I am watching "Maging Sino Ka Man" TV series of Bea and John Lloyd! Lol

I am also keeping my fingers crossed for Jessica Sanchez in the American Idol.

We also walk during weekdays, thank God for spring time!

What more?

Mmmmm... actually a lot of things! But, some just needs to be kept where it is, in the silent mode... until it's ready to let out.

For the meantime, let me leave you with a quotation from Jim Rohn,

If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.

.. and I do that sometimes, making excuses, my bad.

-day 129

reality hurts

The funny thing is I have forgotten how to become really angry. I have forgotten the best way to react when I just hit rock bottom. I have forgotten about what I must be doing or should have done when it hurts. I have forgotten to feel.

It has happened too many times, that I am not sure what's happening anymore.

It has happened too many times that I am not sure if what I am doing now is the right thing to do.

It has happened too many times and now it is happening again.. that, truly, was it fake or real?

Funny but I don't feel human at all. I think I have become a robot. A super woman, maybe? Lol!

I have to start feeling again, but with the situation now, and how memories just flooded my brain cells again... I am not really sure.

The joke may be on me. But it sure feels not right, not humane, and honestly, I cannot even process.

Because I know, I cannot change anyone, because I know deep down, it may be the truth - there's nothing I can do.

Tears wouldn't fall, I've just become calloused. I am not sure what will happen next. All I know for now is that I should be hurting, but I don't feel anything. Just curious. Weird.

A movie in my mind.

I have to change gears, change channels and remember that my circumstances are but my reflection of my inner self. When I change my thoughts, my world around me changes.

I may have no control of what others feel or think. But I do.

I control my timeline. I control my reaction. I control my life.

God rescue please.

NAMASTE.

-day 124

Gem Answers # 8


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C a T c H m y T h O u G h T s !

A man who fears suffering is already suffering from what he fears. -Michel de Montaigne

PurpleDr...

Am I discounting his feelings?

My husband worries a lot about things that probably not going to happen. (Chicken Little & the sky falling) For example today I told him we had new neighbors and they had a 13 yo boy and he responded with "that is peeping tom age" I responded like I usually do with head nods. He says that I am discounting his feelings because I think he is over reacting...he thinks he is taking care of his family. Do you think I am being rude? And what do I say to try to express myself w/out making him feel like he does not matter?

Gems

Best Answer - Chosen by Asker

Best if you can make him relate or share to you what he fears.
An open and honest communication would make him express his feelings toward certain issues.
We may just be seeing the tip of an iceberg, but deep within lies so much more...


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NAMASTE.

-day 71-

Gem Answers # 7

I love being married. It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy

for the rest of your life. -Rita Rudner


http://gemwritinggems.wordpress.com/

C a T c H m y T h O u G h T s !

(I’m not a guru, I'm not an expert but here is my answer to the following question...)

QUESTION

"What is it like being married?"

ANSWER

The first two months were a bliss. After that, I don't know. LOL!

Well, it was mainly because, Dennis, needed to leave the country two months after tying the knot!

So, my marriage arrangement was different.

Every after nine months (Dennis' contract), I would be at the airport to pick him up and then after three months he would be away again.

For years, it was just in the honeymoon stage

and some reality stage.

That was our cycle.

We were never in the other deep stages until after almost eight years of being married.

What is it like being married? 

It's like a roller coaster;  

It's a kaleidoscope of colors including black, gray and white;

It could be heaven or hell, whichever you make of it;

It's being in two opposite poles, until you find your balance and a middle way;

It's experiencing LIFE in a different perspective;

 It's the vow.