Tuesday, January 27, 2015

No to Bottled Water!

For 30 years I have been drinking tap water in the Philippines. I am OK. We are OK. It was in 2007 when I first came here in the US… in New Orleans, Louisiana, 2 years after Hurricane Katrina. Do you think I continued to drink tap water? No. Of course not… I embraced my relationship with bottled water since then. We moved in New Mexico in 2010, the more I hugged my water bottle tight.

… and then this topic. Bottled Water.

I believe it was enculturation for me. It can also be mostly fear. I can also list a lot more excuses but the statistics is loud and clear. We can either face the environmental issues now, or pay later. No doubt about that.

NO to bottled water! Drink tap! or find alternatives! … but just like smoking, it can fall into deaf ears.

Many will continue to buy bottled water, because it continues to be manufactured. Many will continue to buy bottled water because it is more convenient, safe, and handy. Many will continue not to drink tap water because they have money to spend. Many will continue to not drink tap water because…. just because.

For the meantime, here are the alternatives on how I can purify my tap water:

     1) Activated Carbon Filter – carbon materials such as coal, charcoal and wood helps remove water taste and odor, and can do an excellent job in removing lead and organic compounds. They have listed Brita, Clear20 Water Filtration Pitcher, Pur as among the best water filter pitchers. They are mostly cheap, except for the frequent replacement of filter cartridges.

One can also choose faucet-mount water filters or under-sink filters which mostly use the reverse-osmosis system.

2) Reverse-Osmosis  - devices use a membrane with tiny pores to screen out inorganic chemicals and dissolved solids. Prices and options on models vary and maintenance is required for about twice a year, which adds up to annual cost. The best budget option is Whirlpool Reverse Osmosis Filtration System or the 3M Filtrete Under-Sink Advanced Water Filtration System.

3) Distillers – the use of ion exchange devices such as iron removal, softening and chlorination systems reduces most chemicals except organic chemicals. These are less expensive than purchasing the second option. 

4) Filters – traps particles like sand and rust but not dissolved solids in the water. Mostly inexpensive but requires regular maintenance as well.

… as in all stories, it just takes one.. and then, like ripple of hope, we will have America wake up before it’s too late!

Yes to clean, safe and free water not bottled.

Wednesday, January 21, 2015

What's the Word Again? "Attracting"

Yesterday felt surreal. I attended the Special Education Directors' meeting. I got to meet my former districts' directors and happy to see how pleased they were with where I am. 

It was January, 2014 when I attended another training by New Mexico Public Education Department, the speaker was new at the department. I just thought, I can be like that too, and let it pass.

I let it pass in my mind again, but my heart actually believed it. 

When I started my work as an IEP Facilitator 3 years prior, it was a want for me to work in the department. Whenever teachers would take for granted the value of my work, or maybe it was all in my mind... my mind would always wander to my 'what if'... what if I work for the department.. then maybe, they'll take my work seriously.

After sometime though, that thought would just leave, and I'd forget about it. It would just peep in again whenever there were compliance issues with the paperwork.

Rekindling my dream of working for the department... you know, I usually just keep things to myself whenever I have a big something that I want to happen in my life.. but, I have this co-teacher in the elementary school I worked with who seemed very kind. So I told her about my future role in the PED. She laughed about it. I laughed too. 

She thought it was a joke. I thought so too. HAHAHA.

So, she and I would just laugh every time... and every time I'd see her, I'd always say the same thing.. I'll work for the PED someday and she better wait for it!

In less than a year, it came true. Creepy, huh?

Thinking about the events in my life, and how I seem to attract things I want, I am at awe. There is pattern, a good one, and I am just grateful. Putting it into words now, I must say, we do attract things we think about, for real.

So, the million dollars may not be just a dream, but a reality in the near future. 


Dream with me?

And so it is.

Tuesday, June 3, 2014

Earning Commissions vs Fixed Salary

The funny thing was, I felt, I was kissing with success all the time... but not knew about it!

When I resigned from teaching college three years after graduating from college, I only had Php 5000.00 (around 125 USD) in my pocket. I loaned it so I would have something to work with when I applied at the bigger city in the Philippines. 

With my internal motivation to succeed in the corporate world, I took the risk, gave my all despite the odds, hardships and sweat! I wanted it so bad, I didn't stop until I got what I wanted! Well, that time, I started with direct selling of computers to different household! After two weeks of training and another two weeks of being out in the field, from among the two buses full of associates, as we called ourselves, I was the only one who was able to sell!!!

With a lifeline of another Php 5000.00 in my pocket, I asked God again to not give me just commissions... (I was so into being "employed" that I failed to do Math! It only took me 3 hours to sell that computer, and the company gave me Php 8000.00! Had I persevered and ate my pride, I'd never know what I would have become!) Uhm.. if you are curious as to what happened to the Php 3000.00, I gave it to my partner during our field day, she was just a fresh graduate that time, very timid and shy, and I told her all my stories, she so quietly laughed and joined me as we walked along the subdivision we were at. I told her to just stay with me and I would give her Php 3000.00 if I sold a computer!.. and I did!, she was extremely happy! Who wouldn't be? Lol! I am not sure where she is now.. maybe she learned from me, and got on with it! Oh my! She could be rich by now already!)

So I asked God for not just commissions but fixed salary as well... and He did. After another month, tired of walking, this time to different buildings in Makati (not houses anymore!), and not successful with it. I asked God to give me not just commissions, fixed salary, but benefits and air conditioned personal office so I could wear my blazer and not be sweaty with it! Lol!.. and He did!

I got a bigger paycheck, but my expenses got bigger too! Though, I was able to invest some.. still, I was living paycheck to paycheck!



Joy in Learning!

I, nevertheless, continued to read books! I still do!

You would find me at National Bookstore, my favorite place to go when I was not doing anything! I would buy and read all self-help, leadership and motivating books I could find!

I befriended with Mitch Albom, Richard Bach, Napoleon Hill, Dale Carnegie, Bo Sanchez, Leo Buscaglia, John Maxwell, Zig Ziglar, Norman Vincent Peale, Anthony Robbins, Stephen Covey, Robert Kiyosaki, Andrew Matthews, Rhonda Byrne, John Gray, Phillip McGraw, Ryuho Okawa, Mike Dooley and recently Eric Worre plus a lot more whom I'd missed!

I attended all the seminars I could find, PSI Seminars, OCCI Seminars.. from Basic Leadership to Advanced Leadership to Training the Trainer! I was not sure what I hope to find, all I knew was that I had this thirst for knowledge, for learning, for more insights! I seemed to have this endless passion to find me. 

To know what I really want, to be certain of where I am and where I want to be.

I am sure everything happens for a reason. I am also sure it is all just a matter of right timing. Just as we cannot force a pupa to metamorphose when it is not yet finished, it is the same way with people. 

Just like me... 



Monday, May 26, 2014

Right Timing Not!

Like many others who have joined network marketing and failed... 

Failed, because they thought it was a get rich quick scheme... they simply needed to ask people to do the same and then they will become millionaires! Uh no!

Failed, because they thought it was an easy task and when they encountered all criticisms, challenges and failure.. they quit just as fast!

Failed, because they bought the products as a start-up business, as an investment and business opportunity.. but never really believed in it nor understood what a business really means!

I was one of them!

There was even this one time in year 2000 when I invested and bought all these beauty products, thinking I would look the same as the endorsers and promoters, and then, after three weeks of using it, I got all those nasty pimples! I barged in their office, returned all the products and demanded for a full refund! I told them, how can I market all these?! Look at my face!.. good thing they gave my money back! Lol

But still, I continued to attend some more network marketing company seminars.. one invitation to another I would attend, listen and listen some more... at the end of the talk, I'd look into my pocket to check if I have the money to invest, but I'd always have none! Lol

The thing was in my heart, this was the way to go.. this was the way to earn some more...and I knew... I can be so much more! Deep within, I always knew that if I only find the right product, I would be able to do it too! I would also be successful as them speakers!

... and then I found this company, and I loved all their products! Loved it! But, to register was expensive! I knew I couldn't afford.

Many other friends bugged me into a lot more of the same ventures, but I just declined, even if in my heart, it was the way to go... I was enveloped with a lot of excuses already. I accepted defeat even before I entered the battle.



Tuesday, April 1, 2014

Tough Life!

Teaching is hard!!!! 

I blamed, complained and pointed fingers... only to realize it was all me!!!

Read on here: 

Thursday, January 23, 2014

Policeman... again!

“Don't give up before the miracle happens.”  - Fannie Flagg

Thank God for this message! 

By the end of 3rd day, my educational assistant warned me of what I need to do in case she will be out on leave, and my eyes were immediately filled with tears .. good thing I held back! "Please don't", I pleaded!

I wasn't able to contain how overwhelmed I was with everything that while driving, I couldn't hold back the tears anymore... and then the I saw the car... a police car driving the opposite direction as it turned around with its beautiful blue, white and red lights!

Nice.. right timing. 

(continued here.. Oh, Lucky 3rd, Oh, Lucky 3rd! :) 



Stories.. stories.. and more stories!!!

I've started my new job!!!!

It was an OMG as in OMG.. oh my!!! OMG!!!!

Read on here! First Day of the... what the @Exploring Gems: One Step at a Time.

It wasn't as bad.. just felt as if... Lol

Check this out though... my new room! Nice huh?
Clean and Dandy hehehe

Read more about it here!!! My New Workplace @ Exploring Gems: One Step at a Time.

... still believing something realllllly good will come out of this! :)

Thanks for dropping by!


Wednesday, January 8, 2014

Something New!

I am starting anew this 2014! Yay!

I love my job as an IEP Facilitator/Writer... running 4 years now! I really wanted to settle, for the first time! But, for higher good, I am moving on!

I have taken the challenge to teach grade levels I've not taught before! I'll be handling gifted and grades 3-5 students! Nice huh? :)

So, since everything will be an adventure.. I've decided to document my experiences, funny stories, and everything under the sun with this new quest! I am really excited!!! I will have my own room to decorate... it's fun right? Lol. I am up for something crazy, unbelievable and amazing moments of my life for real!

Can't wait to start!

Remember to drop by once in a while! :)


Thursday, December 12, 2013

Me and My Jacket!

I was browsing through my pictures since I came here in the US, and realized that I was mostly wearing the same thing during photo ops!

I bought that jacket in the Philippines before coming here.. and well, it's still with me! I guess, some good things do last somehow :) Yeah, because I held on to it.. and maybe I'll let it go.. someday! Lol!


Tuesday, December 10, 2013

Moving On!

I am starting afresh this 2014!

I've lost track along the way when my expectations weren't met this year. 

I've set goals hoping, wanting and expecting it will all come true.. but it didn't. I've tried mind power, positive thinking and affirmations, hoped for the best, and waited for miracles but God may have other plans. 

Frustrating and sad as it is, I can only move on and find creative ways to make it come true somehow, someday. God willing.

This 2014, YES! I am holding on.

In due time, it will all come true!

Let's continue to conceive, believe and achieve!


Thursday, December 5, 2013

I'm Back!

There was just too much going on especially after the wrath of Yolanda... that I felt it was better to keep silent and just do what needs to be done... not including, writing.

It's almost two months now, and I suddenly missed my blogs - My Dailies and Pinoy Teacher's Stories!

So, am pouring my heart out again... my never ending novela! lol!

When we left New Orleans, three years ago, and settled in New Mexico... I literally, settled, mind, body, heart and soul. I love where I am, I love my job and everything about Gallup. Maybe, I just got tired of moving from one school to another, that when for the first time, I've kept my position as an IEP Facilitator/Writer, running three years now, I want to hold on. I've suddenly resisted change. I've settled.

... when I shouldn't.

Change is good. But, I forgot about it. 

I thank God for His messengers for prodding me to challenge myself again. A friend insisted that I cut my losses. Another one pushed me to take the risk that could be the answer to it all; that God's delays are not only His denials, but it could also mean, He wants me to look at better options and that it is time to move out of my comfort zone and embrace change! and another friend, drilled me to it!

... and so, I've awaken. I'm back! :)

mmmm... let me stretch first! Lol!


Tuesday, October 15, 2013

Moments Like This!

October 14, 2013 afternoon

I need something new to keep me from thinking I've been in this country for so long. I need to go home. I badly want to go home, at least to recharge, at least to hug my parents and family, at least to share stories with relatives and friends.

Weird, I told my husband about this and he told me, "Magtyaga na lang tayo muna dito". He said, to be patient where we are... funny, we are in the United States of America! Many Filipinos in the Philippines would say the same thing while waiting for their opportunity to go to another country. BUT, we are in the other country.. and we are both eager to go home - for a vacation!

Why can't we?

Because leaving without permanent papers would mean going back to our country and staying there for good. We will start back to zero. We'll need to find jobs, make a living and be stable. For a single woman, it maybe OK, but not for a family of four.

We love where we are here in the US in terms of jobs and education for our children. I just badly need a break.

I am not sure what new I am looking for, money can't seem to solve the longing, buying things, eating a lot and traveling to places continue to be temporary and fleeting. 

If only we have the paperwork already, we'll leave at once! Never mind the ticket and expenses. We will go home. But we don't have any.

This is not saying I am not grateful and blessed, because I am but still it's just so weird feeling this way! I feel like a victim! I feel trapped because this isn't my intention, and as of now, even as I am writing this, I can do nothing about it and it sucks! :(

October 14, 2013 midnight news

Major earthquake shook Central Philippines.

I rest my case.

God bless our country, Lord.

Tuesday, October 8, 2013

13 years!

We didn't have long engagement, heck we really didn't have enough time to get to know each other better prior to marriage. For me, it was all gut feeling! LOL.

Yet, here we are! 13 years today! 13 years of getting to know each other and I guess, we will have a lifetime of it!

You continue to be my perfect opposite and I am yours! Picture how we coped all these years! Crazy and weird times, I know. Our marriage is full of spices of different sorts. But along the way, we've learned and are still learning to meet each other halfway, change bit by bit to accommodate, embrace life together, and love unconditionally.

Cheers to 13 years of living, loving and learning Dennis! :)


Friday, October 4, 2013

Hot Yoga It Is!

So, I’ve been attending HOT YOGA classes for a week now. I needed to budget my time from getting off work at 4:30 to being ready 10 minutes before 6pm for the classes. After every class, I’d have a very soaked shirt; but I'd feel really refreshed.

Watches and all electronics are not allowed. Half way through the twisting and curling, I’d wish with all my power that time is already up! Lol.

I’d look forward to the instructor saying “final posture” and it will always be a relief when she would turn off the lights, and say words like…embrace the light, love and peace, honor yourself for doing a hard job and eventually... NAMASTE.

Aside from loving the sweat I was making, I love the time out from all stress and tension and just being in the silence of the heated room. 

We are doing Bikram Yoga. The studios were yoga is practiced is called Torture Chambers. Nice, huh? 

This website has all the actual poses we were doing and the benefits derived from each posture! Check this out BIKRAM YOGA. The 26 postures were selected and developed by Bikram Choudhury from Hatha Yoga and would help maintain optimum health and maximum function to all parts of the body.
Bikram Yoga is all about extension and compression.  This is happening in every phase of yoga, all the time.  Every time you bend to the right, you are compressing or closing that side while opening up the left side.  And vice versa.  The moment you release the posture, blood is transported from one side to the other.  In this way you sequentially improve each part of the whole human body." - From Bikram Yoga (also known as "the orange book"), pg 85-86
Whoa! .. and because I was sweating a lot, I was just following how the postures were done, unknowing, that really, as I was doing the poses I am getting both healing and therapy.
Numerous studies have been made throughout the world about the benefits of yoga. Yoga and it's weight loss and well being success system! It is high time for you to find one at your place too! Click Here! for more information.

Cheers to health!


Tuesday, October 1, 2013

Hot Yoga in Gallup!

Excited to do something with my (physical) life, I together with a friend, checked out the Four Corners Yoga because the Gallup News Bulletin announced the lessons were free!  It was free indeed, (we just told them we saw the ad saying it was free in the paper) and we just paid $2 because we needed to rent the mat and towel.

Oh my, we had 90 minutes of our lives! The room was hot, really, really hot!!! It was like 105+ degrees inside the closed room with like 40% humidity!

Coming to America, I never sweated profusely until that night. We stretched muscles we never knew could be stretched. We did poses, 26 postures, as they called it and I needed to work on my breathing to survive!

There was supposed to be no talking during the meditation time, as what yoga is about, in this case, hot yoga! But, it was funny how we were trying out the postures and not being able to do it as beautifully as we should, there were no judgments, we were told to listen to our body, and it wasn’t a competition anyway. So, with a lot of smiles and some chit chats, the instructor continued to remind us to respect and focus on our own bodies. STOP THE TALKING, in loud words, Lol!

We needed to drink lots of water and one is allowed to do so, of course! The instructors would also give time after every set for us to refresh and take a breather.

We were flushed afterwards, all toxins were out! Our cheeks were rosy and it felt like all tension and stress were released.

After a few days, we came back again, this time, we didn’t talk, it was silence all the way as we stretched and embraced the heat and the sweat! I just have to remind myself that I should not eat at least 2 hours prior to the movements because I could feel the food upside down my stomach as I did the stretches! Lol!

We decided to try this out for 30 days. We paid $29.00, this is the beginner’s month fee; we can go everyday if we want to. (Yoga time is from 6-7:30 Monday to Friday and every Sat and Sun from 9-10:30).

Loving the super sweat I was making, I am hopeful to lose weight in the process and benefit some more! Well now, aside from drinking lots of water, I am now also conscious of my breathing... so it should be good.

... and yes, at the end of the session, the instructor would say as I would,


Friday, September 27, 2013

My Dailies @ 100K

This calls for a celebration!!! 

100,000 plus page views!!!

I started blogging in 2006 using Friendster Blogs. I posted two blogs with BLOGGER in 2009 but stopped. In December, 2011, I decided to use Blogger full time. So, in less three years and 100,000 page views later... I am still grateful!

Thank you for all checking in on what's on my mind. Thank you for visiting! I truly appreciate it!



Friday, September 13, 2013

Weeding Out

Not for any shallow or deep.

A turning point to finally open my eyes and see who matters, what matters and not. Time to pull out weeds and prune. Delayed Reaction. 

Sad to know how people, regardless if you are friends or not, changes, because of potential Simoleons and Benjamins. Lol! I say, bathe in it, savor its preciousness, embrace its power. Hands up. All yours. All yours. 

18 out of 19 people were for me. But that 1 out of 19 who was against me, who would question everything and would do everything just to prove her point, insist she is right and fight for it -- behind my back --- would just bring out the best in me! It was fun to see her reaction, not knowing I knew everything that she did. Looked at her in the eyes, into her soul and acted clueless. Precious. Thank God for good souls.

I was ready to give up, I was rushing towards resentment, resistance and revenge. I wrote to prove my point. I asked him for a review. Confirmed my demand and yet in a second, agreed to his argument. Abode. I fought back the tears but can't. Useless. I lost, I know, but won in the end. There is power in 180 degree turn... and loved his smile. 

I'm trapped on my own web. Can't see a way out now, just going through the flow... my heart beats to flee and embrace my hearts desire but can't. IDK anymore, questioning what's left. Trapped in the U box of squares. Feeling victim but not. Choice.

Too long a time. Too long a time.... not my blueprint, not my plan, not my time frame. I'm ready to jump but can't. My life isn't my own anymore.

He was under my circle before, now he leads the circle... a rocky start but ended great. It feels good to be part of it all. Circle of Life.

There is a God. Delved for message and found Ephesians 4:2-3 

    "Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. 
    Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace."

    Puzzles fit.

Let it be. Let it go. 

Friday, September 6, 2013

I'm 40 and I Love It! :)

I AM 40!!!

Well, that just took a lot of courage in me to be revealing my age when I've actually stopped counting at 33! 

When asked about my age in application forms, I had to subtract the year with my birth year before coming up with the correct age! But of course! LOL!

Why did I stop counting? Direct Answer. I've decided to stop judging myself. 

Age, would be people's way and sadly, my own personal basis of how I should act, behave and look based on what the society expects me to act, behave and look! I'd hear people say that I should act my age! HUH? So, would that mean, the older you get, the more serious, dull and boring you become? Mmmm, that's just not what I envision my life to be, unfortunately! Lol!

Age would also be the basis of what status we should already be at, at this age, "You should already be married with kids?" DUH? and ostracize those who have chosen to stay single at high-risk pregnancy ages? 
No, no, no, no, no.

So, I've decided long ago to stop counting and just enjoy my years on earth!

And.. now at 20.. I mean, 30.. oh yeah! 40.. Lol! I've decided to lovingly accept me as me! 

Acceptance will start from me... and who I've become after 40 years of living, loving and learning and I am embracing all of it wholeheartedly! 

I am grateful , blessed, and full of joy for all the 40 years of God's blessings and miracles in my life. I am still amazed, full of awe and wonder, and will continue to be fascinated and enchanted by His love, compassion, and generosity for another 40 more years of life! :)

Thank you everyone for sharing this momentous event of my life! :)

To God be the Glory!


Thursday, August 22, 2013


It's been a couple of months since I last wrote! Well, I've been doing a lot of technical writing lately and it was definitely exhausting!

My whole summer was spent on 3 weeks of teaching summer school and a whole month of studying! I was finally able to say "Welcome to my Summer Vacation" with arms raised for emphasis, ONLY for a day, it was Sunday and the next day I was back at the office! I wasn't sure if I was glad to be back, well, of course, I thank God for work, and good assignments.. but I do miss being on road trips... and with vengeance, for sure we'll be travelling a lot on weekends and school breaks to make up! Lol!

It was a blessing to be able to move out from our apartment for 3 years with surprising kindness from the one who manages it; upon knowing the reason why we were moving out, she was just so kind to have done adjustments and returned the deposit at the soonest time possible. It still amazes me how good communication works wonder. 

And, yes, we've settled in our tiny apartment. It was so tiny it will only take me 10 steps from the front door to the bedroom! But, we love it! I love being able to leave at 8:00am and be at the office at 8:02am... I know, it's just, you know, walking would mean carrying a heavy bag and walking back at 4:30pm is not fun, so I drive, Lol!

It's been 6 bittersweet years here in the US of A. Time flies! God knows what's next but whatever plans God has for us, we will take it 100% knowing it'll be all good! :)

I missed writing here. It is called My Dailies, right? Lol. Thank you for reading and constantly checking on this site, even if there was no update for the longest time! :)

God bless us all.

“I honor the place in you in which the entire Universe dwells, I honor the place in you which is of Love, of Integrity, of Wisdom and of Peace. When you are in that place in you, and I am in that place in me, we are One.” 

Thursday, June 27, 2013

All is well.

There's just too many things on my mind right now.

What do I do about it?

I act as if everything's fine even if it's not. 

I just can't be in control all the time - and this is one of the realities of life.

Unlike in a computer program, where I can simply edit, delete, copy and paste... how I wish I could do everything by pushing a button. But not. 

All I know is that I will wake up one day and what I expect, want and dream to happen will come true.

All will be well.

All will be organized.

All will come to pass.

Because God is in control. He makes a way. He will arrange everything.

That I believe.

For the mean time, I pray.



Photos taken during Spring Break 2013
Las Vegas, NV USA

Monday, June 24, 2013

One of Life's Surprises!

I applied to rent an apartment, I was hopeful I'd get the place since the one-in-charge, promised it to me, "Yes, I have reserved the apartment for you. Call me again next week, or I'll give you a call."

So I gave her a call a week after. She was suddenly hesitant when I told her the recent occupant will move out, I insisted to go to her office to give the deposit. 

Guess what she told me next? "I'm really sorry, but somebody else reserved the apartment; she already spoke with the manager!"

Furious was I! I told her, "You did say, it is first come, first served, right? and you told me it has been reserved for me? Had I known I still needed to talk to your manager, I could have done that too, a month ago!"

She was sorry and really felt bad because of it. 

I heard from another employee that it was reserved by another employee and their manager agreed to it.

I couldn't object anymore. 

I went to the apartment, the recent occupant was busy packing their belongings. I still couldn't accept the fact that we won't be moving in. I was telling my friends who knew what happened that they just have to wait and see, the "employee" won't rent that apartment, and instead, it will be mine!

The next day, we were in the apartment again, I told the same thing, we will move in.. not them!

A week after the supposedly date of moving in of the "employee"; I received a call. Guess who? the one in-charge, telling me that the apartment is ready for rent, if we still want it!

It was like a miracle!!!

We're moving in!!!


So, what happened there??! 

Oh, we could have tons of answers! Lol!

One thing was true for sure: Life, and it's wonders, happened! :)

Thank God for nice surprises! :)

Thursday, May 30, 2013

90,000 hits! Thank you!

My Dailies got


Thank you for visiting :)

Too many reasons to celebrate....

Summer's here :)

plus some more!!!


... and I miss writing this!



Wednesday, May 8, 2013

The 48 Laws of Power

The 48 Laws of Power  by Robert Greene and Joost Elffers

Law 1
Never Outshine the Master
Always make those above you feel comfortably superior.  In your desire to please or impress them, do not go too far in displaying your talents or you might accomplish the opposite – inspire fear and insecurity.  Make your masters appear more brilliant than they are and you will attain the heights of power.

Law 2
Never put too Much Trust in Friends, Learn how to use Enemies
Be wary of friends-they will betray you more quickly, for they are easily aroused to envy.  They also become spoiled and tyrannical. But hire a former enemy and he will be more loyal than a friend, because he has more to prove.  In fact, you have more to fear from friends than from enemies.  If you have no enemies, find a way to make them.

Law 3
Conceal your Intentions
Keep people off-balance and in the dark by never revealing the purpose behind your actions.  If they have no clue what you are up to, they cannot prepare a defense.  Guide them far enough down the wrong path, envelope them in enough smoke, and by the time they realize your intentions, it will be too late.

Law 4
Always Say Less than Necessary
When you are trying to impress people with words, the more you say, the more common you appear, and the less in control.  Even if you are saying something banal, it will seem original if you make it vague, open-ended, and sphinxlike.  Powerful people impress and intimidate by saying less.  The more you say, the more likely you are to say something foolish. 
Law 5
So Much Depends on Reputation – Guard it with your Life
Reputation is the cornerstone of power.  Through reputation alone you can intimidate and win; once you slip, however, you are vulnerable, and will be attacked on all sides.  Make your reputation unassailable.  Always be alert to potential attacks and thwart them before they happen.  Meanwhile, learn to destroy your enemies by opening holes in their own reputations.  Then stand aside and let public opinion hang them.

Law 6
Court Attention at all Cost
Everything is judged by its appearance; what is unseen counts for nothing.  Never let yourself get lost in the crowd, then, or buried in oblivion.  Stand out.  Be conspicuous, at all cost.  Make yourself a magnet of attention by appearing larger, more colorful, more mysterious, than the bland and timid masses.
Law 7
Get others to do the Work for you, but Always Take the Credit
Use the wisdom, knowledge, and legwork of other people to further your own cause.  Not only will such assistance save you valuable time and energy, it will give you a godlike aura of efficiency and speed.  In the end your helpers will be forgotten and you will be remembered.  Never do yourself what others can do for you.

Law 8
Make other People come to you – use Bait if Necessary
When you force the other person to act, you are the one in control.  It is always better to make your opponent come to you, abandoning his own plans in the process.  Lure him with fabulous gains – then attack.  You hold the cards.

 Law 9
Win through your Actions, Never through Argument
Any momentary triumph you think gained through argument is really a Pyrrhic victory:  The resentment and ill will you stir up is stronger and lasts longer than any momentary change of opinion.  It is much more powerful to get others to agree with you through your actions, without saying a word.  Demonstrate, do not explicate.

Law 10
Infection: Avoid the Unhappy and Unlucky
You can die from someone else’s misery – emotional states are as infectious as disease.  You may feel you are helping the drowning man but you are only precipitating your own disaster.  The unfortunate sometimes draw misfortune on themselves; they will also draw it on you.  Associate with the happy and fortunate instead.

Law 11
Learn to Keep People Dependent on You
To maintain your independence you must always be needed and wanted.  The more you are relied on, the more freedom you have.  Make people depend on you for their happiness and prosperity and you have nothing to fear.  Never teach them enough so that they can do without you.

Law 12
Use Selective Honesty and Generosity to Disarm your Victim
One sincere and honest move will cover over dozens of dishonest ones.  Open-hearted gestures of honesty and generosity bring down the guard of even the most suspicious people.  Once your selective honesty opens a hole in their armor, you can deceive and manipulate them at will.  A timely gift – a Trojan horse – will serve the same purpose.

 Law 13
When Asking for Help, Appeal to People’s Self-Interest,
Never to their Mercy or Gratitude
If you need to turn to an ally for help, do not bother to remind him of your past assistance and good deeds.  He will find a way to ignore you.  Instead, uncover something in your request, or in your alliance with him, that will benefit him, and emphasize it out of all proportion.  He will respond enthusiastically when he sees something to be gained for himself.

 Law 14
Pose as a Friend, Work as a Spy
Knowing about your rival is critical.  Use spies to gather valuable information that will keep you a step ahead.  Better still: Play the spy yourself.  In polite social encounters, learn to probe.  Ask indirect questions to get people to reveal their weaknesses and intentions.  There is no occasion that is not an opportunity for artful spying.

 Law 15
Crush your Enemy Totally
All great leaders since Moses have known that a feared enemy must be crushed completely.  (Sometimes they have learned this the hard way.)  If one ember is left alight, no matter how dimly it smolders, a fire will eventually break out.  More is lost through stopping halfway than through total annihilation:  The enemy will recover, and will seek revenge.  Crush him, not only in body but in spirit.

 Law 16
Use Absence to Increase Respect and Honor
Too much circulation makes the price go down:  The more you are seen and heard from, the more common you appear.  If you are already established in a group, temporary withdrawal from it will make you more talked about, even more admired.  You must learn when to leave.  Create value through scarcity.

 Law 17
Keep Others in Suspended Terror: Cultivate an Air of Unpredictability
Humans are creatures of habit with an insatiable need to see familiarity in other people’s actions.  Your predictability gives them a sense of control.  Turn the tables: Be deliberately unpredictable.  Behavior that seems to have no consistency or purpose will keep them off-balance, and they will wear themselves out trying to explain your moves.  Taken to an extreme, this strategy can intimidate and terrorize.

Law 18
Do Not Build Fortresses to Protect Yourself – Isolation is Dangerous
The world is dangerous and enemies are everywhere – everyone has to protect themselves.  A fortress seems the safest. But isolation exposes you to more dangers than it protects you from – it cuts you off from valuable information, it makes you conspicuous and an easy target.  Better to circulate among people find allies, mingle.  You are shielded from your enemies by the crowd.

 Law 19
Know Who You’re Dealing with – Do Not Offend the Wrong Person
There are many different kinds of people in the world, and you can never assume that everyone will react to your strategies in the same way.  Deceive or outmaneuver some people and they will spend the rest of their lives seeking revenge.  They are wolves in lambs’ clothing.  Choose your victims and opponents carefully, then – never offend or deceive the wrong person.

Law 20
Do Not Commit to Anyone
It is the fool who always rushes to take sides.  Do not commit to any side or cause but yourself.  By maintaining your independence, you become the master of others – playing people against one another, making them pursue you.

Law 21
Play a Sucker to Catch a Sucker – Seem Dumber than your Mark
No one likes feeling stupider than the next persons.  The trick, is to make your victims feel smart – and not just smart, but smarter than you are.  Once convinced of this, they will never suspect that you may have ulterior motives.

Law 22
Use the Surrender Tactic: Transform Weakness into Power
When you are weaker, never fight for honor’s sake; choose surrender instead.  Surrender gives you time to recover, time to torment and irritate your conqueror, time to wait for his power to wane.  Do not give him the satisfaction of fighting and defeating you – surrender first.  By turning the other check you infuriate and unsettle him.  Make surrender a tool of power.

 Law 23
Concentrate Your Forces
Conserve your forces and energies by keeping them concentrated at their strongest point.  You gain more by finding a rich mine and mining it deeper, than by flitting from one shallow mine to another – intensity defeats extensity every time.  When looking for sources of power to elevate you, find the one key patron, the fat cow who will give you milk for a long time to come.

 Law 24
Play the Perfect Courtier
The perfect courtier thrives in a world where everything revolves around power and political dexterity.  He has mastered the art of indirection; he flatters, yields to superiors, and asserts power over others in the mot oblique and graceful manner.  Learn and apply the laws of courtiership and there will be no limit to how far you can rise in the court.

Law 25
Re-Create Yourself
Do not accept the roles that society foists on you.  Re-create yourself by forging a new identity, one that commands attention and never bores the audience.  Be the master of your own image rather than letting others define if for you.  Incorporate dramatic devices into your public gestures and actions – your power will be enhanced and your character will seem larger than life.

 Law 26
Keep Your Hands Clean
You must seem a paragon of civility and efficiency: Your hands are never soiled by mistakes and nasty deeds.  Maintain such a spotless appearance by using others as scapegoats and cat’s-paws to disguise your involvement.

Law 27
Play on People’s Need to Believe to Create a Cultlike Following
People have an overwhelming desire to believe in something.  Become the focal point of such desire by offering them a cause, a new faith to follow.  Keep your words vague but full of promise; emphasize enthusiasm over rationality and clear thinking.  Give your new disciples rituals to perform, ask them to make sacrifices on your behalf.  In the absence of organized religion and grand causes, your new belief system will bring you untold power.

Law 28
Enter Action with Boldness
If you are unsure of a course of action, do not attempt it.  Your doubts and hesitations will infect your execution.  Timidity is dangerous:  Better to enter with boldness.  Any mistakes you commit through audacity are easily corrected with more audacity.  Everyone admires the bold; no one honors the timid.

 Law 29
Plan All the Way to the End
The ending is everything.  Plan all the way to it, taking into account all the possible consequences, obstacles, and twists of fortune that might reverse your hard work and give the glory to others.  By planning to the end you will not be overwhelmed by circumstances and you will know when to stop.  Gently guide fortune and help determine the future by thinking far ahead.

 Law 30
Make your Accomplishments Seem Effortless
Your actions must seem natural and executed with ease.  All the toil and practice that go into them, and also all the clever tricks, must be concealed.  When you act, act effortlessly, as if you could do much more.  Avoid the temptation of revealing how hard you work – it only raises questions.  Teach no one your tricks or they will be used against you.

 Law 31
Control the Options: Get Others to Play with the Cards you Deal
The best deceptions are the ones that seem to give the other person a choice:  Your victims feel they are in control, but are actually your puppets.  Give people options that come out in your favor whichever one they choose. Force them to make choices between the lesser of two evils, both of which serve your purpose.  Put them on the horns of a dilemma:  They are gored wherever they turn.

 Law 32
Play to People’s Fantasies
The truth is often avoided because it is ugly and unpleasant.  Never appeal to truth and reality unless you are prepared for the anger that comes for disenchantment.  Life is so harsh and distressing that people who can manufacture romance or conjure up fantasy are like oases in the desert:  Everyone flocks to them. There is great power in tapping into the fantasies of the masses.
 Law 33
Discover Each Man’s Thumbscrew
Everyone has a weakness, a gap in the castle wall.  That weakness is usually an insecurity, an uncontrollable emotion or need; it can also be a small secret pleasure.  Either way, once found, it is a thumbscrew you can turn to your advantage.

 Law 34
Be Royal in your Own Fashion:  Act like a King to be treated like one
The way you carry yourself will often determine how you are treated; In the long run, appearing vulgar or common will make people disrespect you.  For a king respects himself and inspires the same sentiment in others.  By acting regally and confident of your powers, you make yourself seem destined to wear a crown.

 Law 35
Master the Art of Timing
Never seem to be in a hurry – hurrying betrays a lack of control over yourself, and over time.  Always seem patient, as if you know that everything will come to you eventually.  Become a detective of the right moment; sniff out the spirit of the times, the trends that will carry you to power.  Learn to stand back when the time is not yet ripe, and to strike fiercely when it has reached fruition.

 Law 36
Disdain Things you cannot have:  Ignoring them is the best Revenge
By acknowledging a petty problem you give it existence and credibility.  The more attention you pay an enemy, the stronger you make him; and a small mistake is often made worse and more visible when you try to fix it.  It is sometimes best to leave things alone.  If there is something you want but cannot have, show contempt for it.  The less interest you reveal, the more superior you seem. 

Law 37
Create Compelling Spectacles
Striking imagery and grand symbolic gestures create the aura of power – everyone responds to them.  Stage spectacles for those around you, then full of arresting visuals and radiant symbols that heighten your presence. Dazzled by appearances, no one will notice what you are really doing.

Law 38
Think as you like but Behave like others
If you make a show of going against the times, flaunting your unconventional ideas and unorthodox ways, people will think that you only want attention and that you look down upon them.  They will find a way to punish you for making them feel inferior.  It is far safer to blend in and nurture the common touch. Share your originality only with tolerant friends and those who are sure to appreciate your uniqueness.

Law 39
Stir up Waters to Catch Fish
Anger and emotion are strategically counterproductive.  You must always stay calm and objective.  But if you can make your enemies angry while staying calm yourself, you gain a decided advantage.  Put your enemies off-balance: Find the chink in their vanity through which you can rattle them and you hold the strings.

Law 40
Despise the Free Lunch
What is offered for free is dangerous – it usually involves either a trick or a hidden obligation.  What has worth is worth paying for.  By paying your own way you stay clear of gratitude, guilt, and deceit.  It is also often wise to pay the full price – there is no cutting corners with excellence.  Be lavish with your money and keep it circulating, for generosity is a sign and a magnet for power.
Law 41
Avoid Stepping into a Great Man’s Shoes
What happens first always appears better and more original than what comes after.  If you succeed a great man or have a famous parent, you will have to accomplish double their achievements to outshine them.  Do not get lost in their shadow, or stuck in a past not of your own making:  Establish your own name and identity by changing course.  Slay the overbearing father, disparage his legacy, and gain power by shining in your own way.

Law 42
Strike the Shepherd and the Sheep will Scatter
Trouble can often be traced to a single strong individual – the stirrer, the arrogant underling, the poisoned of goodwill.  If you allow such people room to operate, others will succumb to their influence.  Do not wait for the troubles they cause to multiply, do not try to negotiate with them – they are irredeemable.  Neutralize their influence by isolating or banishing them.  Strike at the source of the trouble and the sheep will scatter.

Law 43
Work on the Hearts and Minds of Others
Coercion creates a reaction that will eventually work against you.  You must seduce others into wanting to move in your direction.  A person you have seduced becomes your loyal pawn.  And the way to seduce others is to operate on their individual psychologies and weaknesses.  Soften up the resistant by working on their emotions, playing on what they hold dear and what they fear.  Ignore the hearts and minds of others and they will grow to hate you.

Law 44
Disarm and Infuriate with the Mirror Effect
The mirror reflects reality, but it is also the perfect tool for deception: When you mirror your enemies, doing exactly as they do, they cannot figure out your strategy.  The Mirror Effect mocks and humiliates them, making them overreact.  By holding up a mirror to their psyches, you seduce them with the illusion that you share their values; by holding up a mirror to their actions, you teach them a lesson.  Few can resist the power of Mirror Effect.

Law 45
Preach the Need for Change, but Never Reform too much at Once
Everyone understands the need for change in the abstract, but on the day-to-day level people are creatures of habit.  Too much innovation is traumatic, and will lead to revolt.  If you are new to a position of power, or an outsider trying to build a power base, make a show of respecting the old way of doing things.  If change is necessary, make it feel like a gentle improvement on the past.
Law 46
Never appear too Perfect
Appearing better than others is always dangerous, but most dangerous of all is to appear to have no faults or weaknesses.  Envy creates silent enemies.  It is smart to occasionally display defects, and admit to harmless vices, in order to deflect envy and appear more human and approachable.  Only gods and the dead can seem perfect with impunity.

Law 47
Do not go Past the Mark you Aimed for; In Victory, Learn when to Stop
The moment of victory is often the moment of greatest peril.  In the heat of victory, arrogance and overconfidence can push you past the goal you had aimed for, and by going too far, you make more enemies than you defeat. Do not allow success to go to your head.  There is no substitute for strategy and careful planning.  Set a goal, and when you reach it, stop.

Law 48
Assume Formlessness
By taking a shape, by having a visible plan, you open yourself to attack.  Instead of taking a form for your enemy to grasp, keep yourself adaptable and on the move.  Accept the fact that nothing is certain and no law is fixed. The best way to protect yourself is to be as fluid and formless as water; never bet on stability or lasting order.  Everything changes.

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